What Morticia and Gomez Can Teach Us About Romance

Editorial Assistant Amy Shelton unveils a powerful lesson of love taught by one of cinema’s most bewitching couples.

They were created for the parody of everything dark, twisted and gothic, yet the love between Morticia and Gomez is something to be envied. 

With their declarations of love and passionate embraces in seemingly inappropriate times, the chemistry of Raul Julia and Anjelica Huston could warm even the darkest of dispositions. 

While most people think of Ally and Noah, or Jack and Rose, these two gothic lovers set the bar for the beauty and sacrifice of true love. Gomez and Morticia are the epitome of respect and passion, existing without any horrid “passionate” fights, controlling behaviour or fear.

If looking into the study of enduring partnership, we should turn to the late Dr Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist who dedicated her life to the study of love and attachment. She has stated that “men and women who continue to maintain that their partner is attractive, funny, kind and ideal for them in just about every way remain happy long term [1].” Gomez sees Morticia as the most desirable and seductive woman, with a famous line being, “look at her. I would die for her. I would kill for her. Either way, what bliss.” For the viewer, it is obvious that Morticia feels the same about her husband. We can see the smile in her eyes with every word or look that Gomez gives her and the relaxation and sensuality that she oozes when next to him. 

However, there are other aspects of their relationship—practical aspects—that demonstrate healthy, passionate love. Fisher and other studies have also suggested that novelty is a key indicator in keeping romance alive and maintaining relationship satisfaction [2] [3]. Novel experience engages dopamine reward pathways in the brain—the same systems that appear in early attraction [4]. Therefore, couples that include novel experiences in their lives are more likely to bond deeper and keep excitement a part of their love life. Gomez keeps this excitement alive by continuing to court Morticia, even after marriage and children have entered their lives. By courting her, she also feels desired, which is a big part of engaging in affection with a partner.

Morticia and Gomez are authentically themselves. They don’t sacrifice their true selves for the other’s approval but come together as two wholes. Morticia and Gomez dress in a way that makes them feel good. They don’t dress primarily for the other person’s gaze despite having similar tastes in fashion, but they dress well because that’s what makes them feel more like themselves. They are fascinating because they both stay true to their own quirks, showing the world their true selves with no shame, enjoying what they wear and feeling good doing so (or feeling miserable—this might be the better term for these gothic beauties).

They also fully accept and respect the other person. They focus on the positive aspects of one another, taking interest in each other’s beauty and interests. Morticia trusts that Gomez will save her life, and Gomez worships the ground she walks on. Studies show that when communication is respectful and focuses on the positive, relationships are kept alive. The same study mentions that communicating with affection, either through words or verbal and physical cues, is also key [5].

When thinking of Morticia and Gomez, the heightened level of physical and verbal affection is often at the forefront. This heightened affection is what contributes to the passion of their relationship, as they are unafraid to express their deepest thoughts or impulses. They are not fearful of expressing too much love or adoration, and it is equally expressed [6]. The couple has specified nicknames that they address each other with: “cara mia” for Morticia and “mon amour” for Gomez. In the midst of stressful, life-threatening events, they can even be found expressing their adoration and physical affection through embraces and verbal praise. In general, they always act as if nobody else is in the room with them.

Morticia is an individual. Gomez is an individual. Both have their own individual and shared interests that they partake in—they dance together, but Gomez also enjoys fencing and Morticia loves gardening. Even with their individual hobbies, they always express interest in what the other is doing. They also schedule very regular dance sessions together; Gomez asks how long it has been since they danced together, with Morticia replies, “oh Gomez. Hours.” Studies have shown that relationship satisfaction is correlated with higher satisfaction with life [7]. But the other way around rings true too. Morticia and Gomez are satisfied with their life and this bleeds into their love.

Gomez and Morticia are like an eclipse, bringing together their love for the darker aspects of life with the light of their love. They are just not ashamed to be themselves and bring this pure, authentic way of being to everything they do, whether it be in their hobbies, tending to their children or in their relationship.

by Amy Shelton

References

[1] Fisher, H. (n.d.). ROMANTIC LOVE : CAN IT LAST? Helen Fisher, PhD. Retrieved February 13, 2026, from https://helenfisher.com/romantic-love-can-it-last/

[2] Aron, A., & Aron, E. N. (1986). Love and the expansion of self: Understanding attraction and satisfaction. Hemisphere Publishing Corp.

[3] Berscheid, E., & Hatfield, E. (1969). Interpersonal attraction (Vol. 69, pp. 113-114). Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley.

[4] [6] The science behind maintaining a happy long-term relationship. (2016). Big Think. https://bigthink.com/videos/helen-fisher-on-how-to-sustain-a-long-term-relationship/

[5] Abreu-Afonso, J., Ramos, M. M., Queiroz-Garcia, I., & Leal, I. (2021). How Couple’s Relationship Lasts Over Time? A Model for Marital Satisfaction. Psychological Reports, 125(3), 003329412110006. https://doi.org/10.1177/00332941211000651

[7] Holt-Lunstad, J., Birmingham, W., & Light, K. C. (2008). Influence of a “warm touch” support enhancement intervention among married couples on ambulatory blood pressure, oxytocin, alpha amylase, and cortisol. Psychosomatic Medicine, 70(9), 976–985. https://doi.org/10.1097/PSY.0b013e318187aef7

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